be kind

You hear a ton about bullying these days, but never about adults who bully. I will say adults bully just as much as kids and we need to stop. I’ve certainly not been kind to everyone that I should be, and definitely have faced some of my own bullies through the days. Reason for this post, I recently stumbled across a post on social media site that was definitely meant to be a snarky view on me – I wasn’t meant to see it, I know this, but I did and my feelings were a bit hurt. The people involved did a direct dig at me and three of them I’ve only met once, and at the time I remember thinking I really didn’t enjoy myself in the situation I was in with them- it was supposed to be fun, but I felt like the odd man out the entire time I was there. Long story short I did spend a part of that time on the phone in tears because I felt awful about it. I’ve grown apart from the person I knew the best at the time, which is completely fine – I still wish that person well.  I think it’s time for people to remember what you post anywhere is open for public consumption. This group of people probably never know I saw it, and probably wouldn’t think twice about my feelings, but it certainly put me in a reality check, it also brought back memories of a time that wasn’t great for me, and to still be made fun of by people I don’t know well is hurtful. It certainly has lead me to reflect and make sure I am thoughtful I want I put out into the world, because you can never take it back, even if you’ve deleted it.

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everybody's got their demons

A video of a song I cannot stop singing this week. I saw Brett Eldredge in concert a few months ago, he was late due to air traffic control, but totally made up for it with giving me this little ditty to sing along with.

bedtime rituals...

Minds out of the gutter readers, please. This is more of a something sweet I like to do each night before I turn out the lights. Most evening routine involves the normal things, washing the face – which usually involves a makeup wipe because I am lazy, a bit of moisturizer for the face, brushing the teeth and flossing. Once I hope in bed, a few things must happen, I must read at least a page of a book, I cannot get sleepy without a bit of reading, and when I turn out the lights, I’ve gotten in the habit of saying good night to my someone, where ever he may be right now. Call it crazy, call it sweet, it’s just what I do – I want my person to know that I wish do wish for a pleasant sleep, and a great tomorrow. I don’t really know when I started doing this, but it dawned on me a few months ago that this is just part of my life until that someone comes into my life.

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happiness list

These little lists are really one thing I’ve been enjoying doing every couple of weeks on my blog. Since cutting down to three posts a week (much more manageable for me at this stage), this “sometimes series” really makes me reflect on things to be grateful for. It’s nice to step back and reflect every now and again.

My new teeny tiny plants from The Sill. I thought they would be a bit bigger, at least in my mind they were bigger. However, I was pleasantly delighted by how absolutely miniature the succulents are and now they brighten up a small corner of my desk.

Halloween candy – so far I’ve been pretty disciplined, only buying one bag of mixed M&M’s. Peanut is my favorite, I could eat them all the time but have the little bags is making me ration out candy pretty efficiently, and making me have a bit less guilt compared to other Halloweens when I just take myself to candy town. Oh, won’t you please, take me to candy town?

Learning that little Norby, at not even a year old, eats grilled cheese. This makes me smile and giggle because this kid is not into the baby food at all. He wants to be a little grown up, which I think the family saw coming from a mile away. I also laugh because I think the whole family views cheese as a standalone food group – good to see that trait got passed along to the next generation.

Having too much to watch on the DVR – really random I know, but it’s nice to know there’s a stash of shows to catch up on. I’ve really been keeping up with two things regularly so far, The Mindy Project (love her, you know this) and How I Met Your Mother. I’ve watched HIMYM since the beginning and the show is very relate-able. I’m a crier so I am getting in the full season of crying this year, I’ll definitely miss the gang when the finale airs.

Enjoy Indian summer this week- it’s such a treat to get a bit more warmth in before the chill of winter really sets in.

What’s on your happiness list this week?